Reframing Thoughts: I Suck at Emotions
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"Cultivating emotions--mentalizing emotionally--is the best path to avoiding emotional excess. Persons who suffer with trauma often find themselves blindsided by sudden eruptions and emotion: they go from zero to 100 m.p.h. in a split second. Yet I believe that they're blindsided because they've been suppressing their feelings, which gradually intensify until they can no longer be suppressed; then they're expressed indestructive ways. Cultivating greater awareness of your feelings is preventative: you cannot influence what you do not know1."
This whole chapter on emotions, has me feeling down and emotional. Thinking to myself, "I suck at emotions". If you're anything like me, you might be wondering what exactly are emotions? I know we all have them, but really, what are they? So, let's look at some definitions. According to Oxford Languages emotions are "a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one's circumstances, mood, or relationships with others." according to Merriam Webster emotions are defined as "a conscious mental reaction (such as anger or fear) subjectively experienced as strong feeling usually directed toward a specific object and typically accompanied by physiological and behavioral changes in the body"
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